For many couples, the rules for storing dates are an opportunity to set the tone for their marriage. Since this is the first idea of what the couple is up to, it’s easy to feel the pressure to “do everything right,” especially when it comes to wording. We turned to experienced wedding organizers Mindy Weiss and Marcy Blum for tips on creating wedding forms and observing etiquette.

It is important to remember that sending saved data is optional. “In general, I insist on keeping the date only if it’s a wedding in another place and people need to prepare,” says Blum. “But it is not necessarily necessary for a local wedding.”


What you should include in a data backup

When sending stored data, adhere to the principle “the smaller, the better”. “Provide as much information as people need in six months,” says Blum. This is not an invitation and should contain minimal information, including:

Date
and the place of the wedding
Your wedding website
Note on the invitation

To answer this last question, there is one thing that everyone should know: the difference is that this is not a real invitation. “Regardless of the way the date is saved, couples should always follow on the invitation card so that guests know that the invitation is arriving and that there is no further information about this newsletter,” explains Weiss. This will please the guests at the upcoming celebrations, without the risk of confusion.

When it comes to storing wedding dates at your destinations, as a courtesy, give your guests as much travel information as possible. “You need to specify the nearest airports and routes, as well as hotel information,” says Blum. “This is one of the main reasons for sending them: so that people can book flights and hotels in advance, so that they are not penalized for last-minute bookings.”


Labels for formulations with date reservation

Think about how much data you ask to store guests.

According to Weiss, the most important political decision that couples have to make is to say “postpone a date” or “postpone a weekend”, as this has two completely different effects. “If you think you can save the weekend, then every guest should be invited to every event, but that’s not always the matter,” says Weiss. Even if you have a wedding at the destination, you need to take into account the difference in wording, unless you plan to invite everyone to a rehearsal dinner or brunch after the wedding.

Pay attention to how you address them.

It is equally important to think about how you will approach the storage of data. Blum explains that when sending, you need to know whether the person will receive a plus or not, and address them accordingly. “Often people are either too lazy to pick it up before shipping, or are not sure, so they just write the name of the guest,” she says. “It’s nice to be approached only by a guest, but this should be important, because you don’t want them to have an appointment, or you can decide what the meeting means, and when you receive the invitation, it will be a completely different hustle and bustle.”


Do not provide specific registration information.

Another possible misstep in keeping the date that Blum asked for is whether or not they contain information about marriage registration. “I would never add a registration to save the date, I think it’s really difficult,” she says.

Do not worry about who will pay for the marriage.